Despite marriage counseling, compromise and a shift in communication styles, your marriage and the life you built with your spouse in Pennsylvania has run its course. It is clear that divorce is the best option for both of you.

Because a dissolving marriage often brings out the worst in people, HuffPost takes a look at strategies for keeping your emotional cool. Do what you can to lessen the overall impact of this chapter in your life.

There is more than one perspective 

You likely have your specific desires for how to resolve certain divorce issues, such as spousal support and asset division. As with most situations in life, there is more than one way to reach a solution that benefits everyone. This way of thinking could keep your frustration at bay.

The insignificant details are small potatoes

Some aspects of your divorce probably mean less to you than they do your soon-to-be-ex-spouse. When divorcing couples write down (and focus on) what means the most to them in divorce, they know when to concede and when to stand their ground. Fighting over every little detail only results in wasted time, higher legal bills and increased frustration.

Emotional responses can ruin negotiations

Before you respond to your spouse’s question or request, ask yourself if your response comes from a place of emotion. For instance, is anger, jealousy or hurt responding for you? Raw, unchecked emotions often turn divorces bitter and draw them out for longer than necessary. Deep breaths, stepping away from the negotiating table for a moment and recognizing what you control help pave the way to satisfaction and peace of mind.

This information is only intended to educate and should not be interpreted as legal advice.

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